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热度 2已有 1126 次阅读2013-12-2 12:23 | experience, somebody, personal, yourself, 沟通能力

今日读到的:

“The quality of my life is the quality of my personal communication."

沟通能力决定生活质量,我生活质量的高低取决于我个人沟通能力的高低。

Here's what I mean by this. In order to have any experience in life and know whether it's good or bad, you have to communicate with who — yourself. You see the quality of your life is how you communicate to yourself. How many of you have ever had a relationship where somebody maybe left you? Anybody had that experience? Anybody here?

下面我会阐明我的观点。为了积累生活经验并学会明辨是非,你必须学会和一个人交流那就是你自己。因为你的生活质量的高低取决于自我沟通的好坏。你们当中有多少人曾经在谈恋爱时,恋人离你而去?谁有过这样的经历,在这儿谁有?

Now when that person leaves, you have several ways to communicate to yourself. The quality of your experience will determine how you communicate about that situation. You might say, "I'm not good enough so they left me." Or you might say, "Thank God they left so they made room for somebody who is right for me." It all depends on the way you communicate to yourself. That will determine how you feel, how you act, how you behave in your future. So to me the quality of your life is the quality of your communication. Number one with whom? Yourself. And number two with others.

当恋人离开的时候,你可以有好几种方式与你自己进行交流。你的经验会决定你如何去面对现实。也许你会说:我有很多缺点,因此他们选择离开我。或者你会说:感谢上帝,他们终于离开了,这样我就可以选择更适合我的伴侣。这些都取决于你和你自己交流的方式,它将决定你的感受如何、你的表现如何以及你将来会怎么做。所以对于我来说,沟通能力决定生活质量。首先就得学会和自己交流,其次才是和他人交流。

Communication with others is what we all want. We want a sense of connectedness. You see, how many of you here would like to make a major difference in the world? Can I see a show of hands? How many of you would like to lie on the beach and get tan? Does that cause a problem sometimes, right? Like part of you working to make a difference and the other part is going, "No I want a tan." Right? And you got this pull in between, right? And it doesn't really exist.

我们都希望和他人沟通。我们都需要一种相互关联的感觉。你们在座的人中有多少人希望通过自己努力去改变世界呢?举起手来让我看看好吗?你们当中有多少人希望躺在沙滩上享受日光浴呢?可有时这些想法会给我们带来问题,是吗?就像你的一半在工作,想改变世界的同时,另一半却说:不,我想去晒日光浴,我要被晒黑。对吧?这时你便处于进退两难的境地,对吧?其实并不存在这样的问题。

How many of you out there would like to be, like to, like be totally financially independent? Can I see a show of hands? Great. How many of you also feel like sometimes in order to do that it seems like it took away from your sense of appreciation of others or your spirituality? Any of you had that experience ever?

你们那儿有多少人愿意,比如说完全的经济独立?举一下手让我看看好吗?好极了。你们当中有多少人也会感到,有时为了达到你的目的,你不得不去诋毁他人,而不是去欣赏他人,或是要被迫放弃自己的精神信仰呢?你们中有谁曾经有过这样的经历?

You see but do you have to give both of those up. No, you can learn how to integrate them, you can have the best of both worlds. How many of you would love to have a totally one-on-one committed relationship with someone totally focused and monogamous? How many of you would like to have something like that? Great. How many of you get attracted to all kinds of people?

难道你们只有把这二者全部抛弃吗?不,你们可以学着如何把二者融为一体,你能够让两个世界相处得极好。你们当中有多少人愿意洁身自好,对伴侣忠实,并希望伴侣也能和你一起维护一夫一妻的关系呢?你们当中有多少人愿意这样做呢?好极了。你们当中又有多少人是见谁爱谁呢?

Okay, does this create a problem? What's it called — "inner civil war." Right? And what we want to show you is how to resolve that because that's where the power is, the power comes when you know how to integrate yourself.

行了,难道这没有制造什么问题吗?把它叫做—“内部的内战怎么样?我们想要告诉你的就是如何解决这个难题,当你知道如何进行完善自我的时候,你就拥有解决这个难题的能力。

And as we work on that, the portion that you'll be getting of my communication consciously, will be the idea of the personal power of my background. That is if you look at human communication you'll find out that only seven percent of human communication is words.

当我们共同研究它的时候,你就会意识到在这次演讲中,是我的丰富人生经历使你们从中获益。而让我们回顾人类的沟通,语言本身只占了沟通的百分之七。------By Anthony Robbins


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